I heard once that the average parent only plays with their children for ten minutes a day. I thought no way, that's ridiculous. But then I started taking notice of how many times I say, as soon as I finish the dishes, sorry I have to take care of the baby, or not right now, mommy is cleaning/cooking/reading. On top of that, the time I do spend on the floor with the kids I might be distracted with texting, or cutting coupons, or making lists. I am not actually with them 100%. This is where debilitating guilt can creep in and whisper what a horrible mom I am in my ear. I can choose to listen to guilt, to let that be my motivation for change, or I can listen to what God has to say. I could spin my wheels trying to be super-mom with a spick and span house, clean, well-behaved children, and dinner on the table piping hot at 5. But what happens when I fail? I say when not if because failure is inevitable, it is one sure thing about us, we are not perfect. How do we cope then when we have so much riding on the fact that we get this mothering thing right?
We hide in Christ.
If there is no hope for me to get this right and be perfect then I will hide myself in the one who can get it right, who is perfect. I will abide.
Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit by itself, unless it abides in the vine, neither can you, unless you abide in me. John 15:4
If you abide in me, and my words abide in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you. John 15:7
You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you that you should go and bear fruit and that your fruit should abide, so that whatever you ask the Father in my name, he may give it to you. John 15:16
I came across this a few years ago, but it is such a good reminder. The original can be found, downloaded, and printed HERE.
I pray that God will give us the grace to let him parent our children through us. There is no better way! I hope you all have a great weekend!